While staring at a blank word processor screen, trying to come up with something to produce for the fine readers of Stogie Review, I recalled an email that came in a couple of hours ago. Thinking back to the email, I thought it would make for a great post. The email in question was from Doug, he wanted to know about Herf Etiquette. While there are no set of rules for these events, there are a couple of things to know before going to your first get-together.
I have recently been invited to herf event at someone’s home. While I have smoked cigars for several years, I have never attended a formal, planned herf. I have been invited by a friend that I have known for several years but neither of us know many of the other attendees and don’t want to rub
anyone the wrong way. Are there any herf ‘rules’ or etiquette that we should know about?
Doug asks an excellent question. Rather than simply replying to him, why not share my response with the Stogie Review community and see if we can’t form some discussion in the matter.
If you are not familiar with the term Herf, don’t worry, it isn’t a common term outside of the online cigar community. A simple explanation would be a get-together with other cigar smokers with the intention of having a good time. Some Herfs are planned out and are very organized while others pop up on a whim. In any case, its always a great deal of fun.
An impromptu herf at the 2008 IPCPR Convention in Las Vegas
From Left to Right
Brian Hewitt, Doc Stogiefresh (Stogiefresh),
Jesse (Cigar Jack), and Justin (LasVegAshTV)
So now that you know what a Herf is, lets talk about what you can expect at your first herf.
This goes without saying, you’ll obviously be smoking cigars. What you may not realize is that you’ll be smoking alot of cigars. In fact, you may smoke more cigars during the day of a herf than you ever have before. When the comradery starts, no one is any kind of rush to get going. As a result, you wind up smoking lots and lots of cigars all while being totally immersed in conversation.
If you’ve ever sent out a gift package of cigars, in the mail, you know the excitement of seeing the unknowing recipients reaction to your gift. This same excitement is amplified when the reaction can be seen first hand. This generally leads to cigars changing hands numerous times throughout the event. Bring with you anything that you are open to sharing. The people attending the event are just like you and will love to try new cigars, regardless of their price tag.
If the event is being held in a cigar shop, be sure to spend a few dollars. There is nothing worse than seeing the look on a shop owner face as he realizes that hundreds or thousands of dollars worth of cigars are being passed around within your group, none of which have been purchased from him. Be sure to thank the shop owner for allowing you a place to meet up with friends and return the favor by making a purchase.
The most important thing to remember while attending a herf is to have fun. For some people it isn’t a regular occurrence to sit down with fellow cigar enthusiast and have a smoke, make it a memorable experience for them and for yourself. Sit back, relax, and smoke cigar after cigar all while embellishing in the developing friendship.
I would like to thank Doug for submitting an excellent question. While we may not be the fastest people to respond to your questions and comments, we appreciate them very much.
What other tips would you recommend to Doug
or any first time Herfer?